Sunday, August 14, 2011

The Path Of Life

The biggest problem you ever have to overcome in life is yourself.

Dana Bate
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I read through the news every morning. I ignore the headlines because they are misleading. Much of the media just grabs attention through headlines that don't appropriately reflect the story. So I read the story and thus am informed about the desperate situations going on in the country and the world. I wonder what a simpleton like myself can do about any of it and feel impotent.

I look around my apartment at all the chores and cleaning up that has to be done and chastise myself for my reluctance to drop everything else and do it.

I open my check book, look at my balance and wonder how I'm going to meet my finacnial obligations without depriving myself of coffee and cigarettes. I feel bad that I can only squeeze out a $10 contribution to organizations to whom I would like to give hundreds.

I read through my journal entry for the day and worry over whether or not I have expressed myself properly, if my ideas are clearly written and the motives behind what I've offered are to benefit the reader to the best of my ability.

But all of these thins are secondary to the errors of judgement, failures, mistakes of life, remorse, regrets, hopes, doubts and fears for the future that attached themselves to me like my own skin.

Those nasty parasites are enemies to happiness, and yet how easily I invite them in and become their host. I can clean out the kitchen sink. Why can't I clean out my head? Because to worry about myself and entertain all my faults and flaws is a habit. And that habit is built upon one embedded, rock solid, ice cold misconception. It's called "material personality."

You are not what you eat. You are not what you see in the mirror. You are not your job description. You are not what it says on your drivers licence, not your social security number, not your shoe size, nor your skin color and you are certainly not what you are subconsciously worried about right now.

All of it is part of the masquerade of human life, the games we play, the show we put on for ourselves and others. As an actor I was certified to depict human life in all its facets and to understand just how fictional most of that life is. If there is no other lamp I can carry forth out of 50 years of being a performing artist it is the one that lights up the path to being and the joy of being, the path to freedom from our self imposed limited personalities. Holding on adamantly to who we think we are just makes becoming who we are more difficult.

As human beings, on whatever level of existence, we are more interesting, complex, creative, adaptable. versatile and capable than we give ourselves credit for. The path to life is to discover that, understand it and prove it.

Dana Bate - The Real Vagabond
Never give up.
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SUMMER QUESTION

Summer is moving along, people.

It's a long, hot, sticky summer, so here's a hot, sticky question for you. Don't let the recent New York State decision rob you of your thunder.

Same sex marriage. Should it be legal or not? If so, why? If not, why not?

dbdacoba@aol.com

Only 14 answers so far.

You have until the last day of summer, but don't dally.
I eagerly await your answer.

DB
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WEEKEND CONTEST

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Good luck.
DB
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5 comments:

Rose said...

I love your writings.

I seems you have the same problems I have. I allow things to rent space in my head due to worrying.

I stopped smoking 4 1/2 years ago and it was the best thing I ever did not only for my health, but for my wallet as well.

I had my doctor write script for "Chantix" which truly worked for me. It is a 12 week program.

Hugs, Rose

Bucko (a.k.a., Ken) said...

I try to not dwell on regret, it can quickly take its toll.

krissy knox said...

I absolutely love this post, dana. this is something i have been thinking about lately. we are more than our foibles, our past, what our "automatic thoughts" tell us we are, the baggage we carry around. that's why i try to think things through a little bit when i get an "automatic thought" that tells me something negative about myself, or leaves me with a lot of fear. i do this quickly, of course, because i don't want to dwell on the negative, or even the exercise -- that's not the point. i just want to get rid of the nag that is getting to me when it first crops up -- so that i can let it go. and i change the improper negative thought into a positive one. no, i don't lie to myself, i just look at things from a different paradigm, realizing what is true and what is not... i can often quickly realize that the negative thing i thought was true was not true, and that there are plenty of positive true things there. i guess you would say i use a type of "cognitive thinking" i learned to stop my "automatic thoughts". it's kind of a formula i use, and someties i even have to use paper to do it, but more and more i am doing it "automatically" in my head --- destroying the "automatic negative thoughts" i mean, and changing them to something neutral or positive. yes, i am a young lady full of creativity, joy and worth. i am adaptable and interesting. i am hard working. i like myself. i am not dumb, ugly, and crazy like i was told by some growing up, and i can use my cognitive skills to tell me those "automatic thoughts" aren't true. thanks for one of the best posts i've read in years, db. it has refreshed me. be proud of yourself, you are special also.

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Arlene (AJ) said...

Dwelling on regret will only cause depression so not worth doing that at all....just keep looking forward to tomorrow with a smile on your face.

Vagabonde said...

My laptop is still not working so I have not been on the Web too much but you, my dear, are very prolific. I like you vagabondism no 128 although I think many people are afraid, at all ages, and above all in the US. Hope you are enjoying your summer.